tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post3283386615576244774..comments2024-02-29T04:06:20.308-08:00Comments on The Damsel in this Dress Blog!: WAIT! Truce!Damsel in this Dresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07903984201982912764noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-63065084508312495072011-10-30T11:33:27.636-07:002011-10-30T11:33:27.636-07:00Once upon a time I used to shy away from complimen...Once upon a time I used to shy away from compliments from people, as though by accepting what they were saying I was somehow breaking some unwritten rule of female etiquette. Well screw that. I've got a body built to withstand a Scottish Highland winter - super solid stocky bone structure and a tendency to build muscle before I burn fat. I hover in this weird liminal space in between regular and plus size, and you know what? I've got some seriously sweet curves. Now, put me in the black and red Pirate Vixen corset I just bought recently from you, and stand by to stand by! It's about to get hot in here. (And I got nothing but mad compliments on it last night. Thanks!!)<br /><br />Honestly, I can't understand anyone who would turn you down either for the compliment or the modeling. Personally, I would absolutely jump on the chance to be a model for the fabulous things you make. That, and some of the most beautiful women I know do all their shopping at stores that cater to a more voluptuous clientele. And I make sure that I let them know just how beautiful they are every time I get the chance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-15402553712185661642011-08-22T19:44:28.259-07:002011-08-22T19:44:28.259-07:00I think you should still compliment them however y...I think you should still compliment them however you want. People should NOT be picky with compliments, it's silly. People may not know how to take them gracefully, but I can guarantee you made their day. Just continue, evenutally those people will realize it themselves. But I'd hate for you not to say these things just because people don't know how to react. <br /><br />I'd probably stammer and say 'oh no...' if you said something like that to me. But I'd literally be jumping for joy inside and be so flattered.Moniquehttp://www.nocturnaldaylight.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-13869190692695353462011-07-28T02:20:31.725-07:002011-07-28T02:20:31.725-07:00I completely agree with your view. I know that I m...I completely agree with your view. I know that I myself don't always feel pretty. But even being a large woman I would be flattered if someone asked me to model for them. I just think that things have been so beaten into our heads that it's become second nature for us to feel bad about the way we look. I think all woman should be proud of how they look, even if it's not every second of every day.Jessicahttp://www.facebook.com/mommykoolaid#!/profile.php?id=100001000950569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-69535662784663014742011-07-19T13:48:58.459-07:002011-07-19T13:48:58.459-07:00I've always gone with the complement of "...I've always gone with the complement of "that shirt looks awesome on you," "your hair looks great today," "I love that scarf with your eyes," (though really, it's hard to go wrong complementing anyone on their eyes).Jessa Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04481226273754713689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-36878522699937943362011-07-15T00:47:53.891-07:002011-07-15T00:47:53.891-07:00Tell her she has nice: Style, Hair, pretty eyes, c...Tell her she has nice: Style, Hair, pretty eyes, cute shoes...ect.Rebeccccccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518977239247485357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-47498898297198328712011-07-14T14:13:00.340-07:002011-07-14T14:13:00.340-07:00Heather! Me and my friend had this big long discus...Heather! Me and my friend had this big long discussion one day about how she was really thin in high school, and everyone complimented her on it constantly, and how she got this really weird idea of all of her self worth coming from being thin. I REALLY try to not say things like, "look how tiny you are!" Could you tell me what TO say when I see someone really thin and want to ....uh...say something nice to them?Damsel in this Dresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07903984201982912764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-11981285041521033582011-07-14T14:10:37.417-07:002011-07-14T14:10:37.417-07:00OH, I'll use the "just ugly ENOUGH" ...OH, I'll use the "just ugly ENOUGH" comment for myself. ;)Damsel in this Dresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07903984201982912764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-85212281700838399372011-07-13T21:20:46.959-07:002011-07-13T21:20:46.959-07:00Michelle!
Get in touch with me if you need a &q...Michelle! <br /><br />Get in touch with me if you need a "non-skinny" model! I have ample time and am more than willing!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14592618478749599265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-47951047561445835152011-07-13T21:07:41.223-07:002011-07-13T21:07:41.223-07:00I feel like a prisoner in my own skin sometimes.
...I feel like a prisoner in my own skin sometimes.<br /><br />MoxieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-63980729108241803762011-07-12T19:33:49.795-07:002011-07-12T19:33:49.795-07:00I've never been content with my body, ever. I&...I've never been content with my body, ever. I'm 5' 10", 125, size 4, and 34B cup (even after a baby, goshdarnitt!).<br />I've never felt comfortable complaining about my body or how difficult it is for me to find things that fit properly (I've broad shoulders and a ridiculously long torso, no ass at all - but thighs and legs about as long as I am tall.), because anytime I would - I'd pretty much get snapped at to 'STFU' by any other female around me (including my mother), telling me I had no right to complain.<br />It gets a little tiring hearing things like 'You need to eat!' and getting called anorexic because I'm skinny.<br />I tried so hard to keep my remaining baby weight on, so I could have the luscious curves I've lusted after since I was 13 - but no such luck when you work at a roller rink and do derby :/ <br />I think most women are prone to being uncomfortable in their own skin at any given point and time, and it just makes me sad that even though the media perpetuates so much negative body image - we do it right back by getting into the whole 'REAL women have CURVES' thing.<br />No.<br />Real women are not defined by their bodies, or what someone conceptualizes them to be.<br />(I'd like to throw in that you are one of my idols and I think I would pee everywhere if I ever got to meet you - let alone play dress-ul, but I don't think your circuit brings you close to Alabama :C )Heatherhttp://www.tumblr.com/onestrangecupcakenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-71316440924506416762011-07-12T16:44:24.655-07:002011-07-12T16:44:24.655-07:00I used to work for a photography company. We had ...I used to work for a photography company. We had to try to get people to sign up for our 'free' portrait sitting. Of course, we wanted them to buy the package deal, but the one WAS free. One day after hearing I don't know how many women (and men) tell me "oh, you don't want to take my picture, I'm too ugly"... I came back with, "you are certainly NOT too ugly - I think you are JUST UGLY ENOUGH!"....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-16393607950509659542011-07-12T13:46:08.783-07:002011-07-12T13:46:08.783-07:00Oh man, I hope you didn't think I thought you ...Oh man, I hope you didn't think I thought you 'hate skinny girls' that is not at all what I was trying to say! Your corsets and posts are totally inspirational! You are so right that all bodies should be represented, and celebrated. It's always been clear from the way you write and run your business that you love women regardless. You're a great person all around it seems!<br />It seems my baggage about this issue clouded my communication. It just doesn't feel good to be accused of being anorexic or eating only celery when your whole life you just wish you could grow some boobs. Not that you are saying that, but the discussion kind of felt that way. <br />I think(hope) this is a place for all the beautiful women of any kind to find empowerment through your corsetry, the great sexifyer of all figures. <br />Incandescently, this really cool interview reminded me of you: http://www.fairygothmother.co.uk/reconsidering_the_corset.htm<br /><br />I may have to buy that book.Violetfoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11519188803041015379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-78462367800607696862011-07-12T12:53:23.151-07:002011-07-12T12:53:23.151-07:00When I was much younger, I just about destroyed my...When I was much younger, I just about destroyed my body in an attempt to whittle myself into a shape that my body just couldn't maintain. I was exercising five or six hours *every* day, starving myself to the point that my hair was falling out...and barely was able to fit my hips into a size six pair of jeans. By hips, I mean those bones that your body sometimes has that help keep it upright ;) <br /><br />At some point, this beautiful plus sized black woman sat me down with a piece of cherry cobbler, and if I didn't eat, I was going to die. <br /><br />I don't know why that particular sentence made it through to my brain, but I ate every bite, crying like a fool the whole way through. <br /><br />I used to tell myself that I would kill myself if I ever hit 200 pounds. <br /><br />Why are we such idiots when we are that age? Maybe it was just me! <br /><br />I am now a size 24. That's after loosing 70 pounds. <br /><br />I am actually happier now, with who I am, how I look, how I feel, then I was when I was obsessing over every calorie eaten, every calorie burned. I think I am no more or less prettier, though I realize most would disagree. <br /><br />I think...it's a hard thing for most women to come to, that they alone occupy their own skin - and that happiness from external stimuli, via the approval of others, only reaches in so deep.<br /><br />I think it's wonderful that you find beauty in many different vessels, and hope you continue to express your appreciation of such beauty, even at the slight discomfort of yourself and others. How can we learn to be different, and to embrace our bodies for what they are meant to do instead of what we were trained to believe they should look like...if we never step outside of that comfort zone?<br /><br />Any ways, sorry for the long ramble. <br /><br />I appreciate you, and your lovely corsets, and every chance that I get to wear them that remind me of how sexy it feels to have a working, strong, beautiful body :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-29061428160783808512011-07-12T11:54:33.435-07:002011-07-12T11:54:33.435-07:00Bobbi, have you tried buying bras online? I'm ...Bobbi, have you tried buying bras online? I'm a 34FF and about the only bras I can buy that actually fit me and don't look like they were made for industrial support all come from Bravissimo. If you live in England you can go to walk-in shops, but for anywhere else you can buy from their online shop. <br /><br />Granted, not as sexy as Michelle's corsets, but they've got some pretty sexy undies and bras for us "hard to fit" women. *grin*Jessa Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04481226273754713689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-56805657607568929492011-07-12T08:41:54.139-07:002011-07-12T08:41:54.139-07:00I have this sort of art/social project I do someti...I have this sort of art/social project I do sometimes in a busy tourist area of San Francisco. I *sell* compliments. For 10 cents. The idea is that we only value things we pay for, even though the most important things (like kindness, and genuine compliments) ought to be free. Some people interact with me because they get the joke and think it's funny ( I sell genuine compliment, surreal compliments, and quotes about compliments), some people think I'm a clever gutter punk panhandling, and some people legitimately crave human interaction, and feel better for hearing something nice about themselves, even though they've paid me a dime for it (or more - I sometimes make $20 in a couple of hours!).<br /><br />The sad part is that I often want to give people compliments even when they say they have no money, and they refuse to accept them. Sad looking people just walk away despondently. I think this speaks volumes about our society. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-27076233012520083342011-07-12T07:28:03.795-07:002011-07-12T07:28:03.795-07:00Storming Vogue sounds like a stellar idea. Let us ...Storming Vogue sounds like a stellar idea. Let us eat donuts and unlike Miss Congeniality, get away with it!<br /><br />I love your commentary keep the good work up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-54611869688750890012011-07-12T03:01:04.891-07:002011-07-12T03:01:04.891-07:00Most women who aren't professional models aren...Most women who aren't professional models aren't going to be able to gracefully take many comments on their appearance, especially if they do not know you first. Take that just being something a lot of people don't do gracefully, add in personal image being wrapped up in all sorts of mental stuff, and then bring in the fact that our society spews out a lot of nasty for women's images - in particular anyone not perfectly mini-sized, but it's also harsh to those women. We've been raised and taught to work for compliments on our work, our intelligence, sports, or whatever we DO, and not what we are. How do you take a compliment on the corsets you make vs how would you take someone you don't know complimenting your looks? You seem more comfortable with yourself than most (at least you don't hate photos!), but I would expect it's still 'easier' to be complimented on your work.<br /><br />Have you tried just saying that you want a "real life customer" to model and that you think they would work well? If they aren't familiar with you classifying them as a "plus sized model" first thing is probably uncomfortable. Or perhaps there are people you know from other things that you could use? They'd not immediately run for the hills and you could at least finish the conversation.<br /><br />But yes, if you tell people at a faire or something that they're pretty... well, I'm sure you mean to be nice, but at least get em in your corset first! ;-) Then they cannot run away quite so fast and at least have your clothes to blame.erinpacnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-61932566796265233472011-07-11T21:23:16.553-07:002011-07-11T21:23:16.553-07:00Bobbi! You get the gold sticker for the day! And I...Bobbi! You get the gold sticker for the day! And I TOTALLY get what you ladies are saying! I like reading the comments tremendously, which is exactly why I write the dang blogs. I think my customers teach me more than anyone or anything else. It's good to see that we're all drastically different, but have so much in common as far as feelings go.Damsel in this Dresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07903984201982912764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-80772000331390141372011-07-11T20:59:09.342-07:002011-07-11T20:59:09.342-07:00Oh yeah, Lane Bryant is awesome for D cups but I&#...Oh yeah, Lane Bryant is awesome for D cups but I'm a G and I'm back to industrial looking bras or "minimizers" (seriously I hate that once you get this busty half of the bras tell you that you need to hide it) that are at least in petty colors but still pretty blah styles. I can't even wear low cut tops because they all are cut so high. I get embarrassed when I wear my Vixen at Ren Faires because my bra pokes out of a top that isn't even particularly low cut. What's point of having G-cups if you can't pull out a plunge push up once in a while and feel hot?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16681586122218769552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-66317549025838403782011-07-11T20:44:45.045-07:002011-07-11T20:44:45.045-07:00Women and weight is such a mental and heavy issue....Women and weight is such a mental and heavy issue. We all are so deeply connected to how we feel and how our weight makes us feel that it becomes such a hot issue.<br /><br />I know when I felt the best, when I actualy didn't think about my gut everyday. It was liberating. But I also had to work out almost 2 hours a day. I was doing it because I liked it. I don't like it anymore, and I don't like how I look anymore. <br /><br />So now I get to figure out a way to motivate myself. Because thinking about how NOT hot I am is wasting too much of my day. <br /><br />It's sad that the society today doesn't appreciate all sizes. I'm not unhealthy, in fact, I'm average for my height, but because I'm tall (6' 1/2") and a size 14, I get the comment "big." a lot. <br /><br />You know, I'm as tall as most runway models. But I just don't have a size zero. <br /><br />I wish I was bigger than that to say the world and words don't hurt me, because they do. <br /><br />-MoniqueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-82824095075175656772011-07-11T20:24:01.294-07:002011-07-11T20:24:01.294-07:00I think it's hard for everyone to accept thems...I think it's hard for everyone to accept themselves as they are.<br /><br />But I will say that your corsets make me feel sexy, even if I am overweight. Sexy corsets for everyone!Drarrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00576434547693782028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-70869321977044165302011-07-11T20:17:01.291-07:002011-07-11T20:17:01.291-07:00I think we need a baconator photoshoot. I love ba...I think we need a baconator photoshoot. I love bacon and I'm currently 5'2" and 250+ pounds, and six and a half months pregnant. I love my corsets, and I miss them every single day. I'm planning to buy at least six more, and I have to admit, I love my LB bras, and I got four of them for under $50 on the last sale, and in a size that *I* am comfortable wearing and supportive and wonderful and (right now) not push up, but still wonderful and lovely and make me feel like me again, and not just me+1.Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06485812607088278611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-24510266635094707742011-07-11T20:15:10.150-07:002011-07-11T20:15:10.150-07:00I remember reading somewhere that women have a ten...I remember reading somewhere that women have a tendency to not accept compliments gracefully. We feel guilty just saying "thank you." For some reason we're awful if we don't follow the compliment by putting ourselves down. Since I heard that, I've been accepting compliments and trying to say something nice in return to the complimenter. It always makes me feel a lot better about myself!<br /><br />About the weight: I don't carry it well, and I have about 60 pounds to lose. I'll be happy to be a size 12 again. That's not supermodel thin, but it's a healthy size for someone of my height. I'm tired of my mom telling me I'm obese when I'm not--I'm just overweight. I don't like how I look in pictures next to my super skinny sister and daughters, and most of all, I know I'm not healthy. The corsets look pretty good on me now, but I know that when I get to my target weight, which will still be nice and curvy, I'll really rock them!<br /><br />That said, at steampunk events I've seen some very curvy women who carry their weight well and look darn sexy in corsets. They look happy with their size, they love flaunting their curves, and their confidence shows! We really are hot in all sizes.Kristin Bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16112300139571487439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-29805206576174682362011-07-11T19:56:22.498-07:002011-07-11T19:56:22.498-07:00We are constantly reminded when we put a toe out o...We are constantly reminded when we put a toe out of the acceptable BMI range. Between social brainwashing and "concerned" friends and family it's almost impossible to forget. I personally got in a habit of reminding myself to say fat not curvy when referring to myself because I am unhealthy and need to change and to at least mentally deny compliments so I don't forget why I need to work to change. <br />In high school I had a doctor hounding me about my weight (180lbs 5'6 with a 32" waist and a 42" chest and hips) until I gave in and lost twenty pounds on a fad diet that she recommended. I got a ton of compliments but because it was an insanely unhealthy diet I promptly gained all of it plus a bunch more back. I liked being 180... I was a size 12 and was curvy as hell. I was in dance, and worked as a CNA after school so I was on my feet a lot I was really in no way unhealthy but it helped start the process that knocked me on my butt and put an extra one on. <br />Today I am not where I want to be although I am making progress. (teeth pulling, frustratingly slow progress) I still like the fact that I'm curvy I just want to have a little less of that around my middle. (Probably why I am obsessed with corsets and why my main goal it to lose enough inches off my waist to go down a size in corsets) <br /><br />P.S. For anyone curious about my weight loss check out my blog here: geekyhealth.blogspot.com.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16681586122218769552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8860539656121595525.post-9447894236689685152011-07-11T18:53:21.495-07:002011-07-11T18:53:21.495-07:00I am still a little huffy but I guess that is just...I am still a little huffy but I guess that is just my skinny butt causing these panties to twist. I will forever have to deal with people making snide remarks about my tiny waist and I will suffer with always having my clothes tailored for me because things are to big and cause me to look preggers. <br /><br />Just to be clear here it isn't always fun and wonderful to have 32D mixed with a 21 inch waist.Rebeccccccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518977239247485357noreply@blogger.com