Monday, September 22, 2014
Principles of Epic Costuming:Chapter 7
When you are putting together a costume in the manner that is thoughtful and methodical, it helps you to confront the negativity monster in your head. Believe me, it needs confrontation every single day, and it absolutely THRIVES when you retreat, give up, wallow, stress, and falter. However, the very act of going out into public with your head held high, in a costume that you compiled yourself out of your ideas and passions is a victory! You are firmly telling that mean voice in your head that you are here to share your art with others, to inspire them and connect with them! You are here to help conquer the monsters in OTHER people's heads! It is a triumph for all!
One of the greatest blessings of my life is seeing my customers out at festivals and conventions CONNECTING with each other. It may be a casual high-five as they walk past each other in a crowd. It may be a knowing nod and a single questioned phrase, "Damsel?" met with an approving smile. More often than not, it's women that are excited about each other and the costume ideas that they have created! They will stop and compliment, ask questions, revel, and rejoice!
I wake up almost every morning thinking, "Holy crap, I cannot do this today. I can't accomplish the things I want to. It is too hard to please all of these women. I don't have the strength. I cannot do it. I cannot face any negative comments. I can't do another show. This is so emotionally exhausting." and a whole host of other untruths. It usually takes me the whole entire day to turn this around to "I LOVE my job! I love the women that support us! I love creation! I love my brain! I love my body! I love the bodies of my customers! I love everybody!!!! I love corsets! I love romance! I love hope! I love joy! I even love the bad things in my life because they make me LOVE the good things even more, in contrast!!! Love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
I want to tell you right now, the corsets have a magic in them, and even though I'm not the one who created the magic, I like to think of myself as a purveyor of the magic. This magic is the only thing that can defeat the horrible monster...at least until tomorrow. ;)