Monday, May 20, 2013
Satisfaction in Dissatisfaction
It occurred to me then, as it has so MANY other times in my life of corsetry, that women are idiots about their bodies. I'm firmly convinced that the only way any of us are happy is if we are actively UNHAPPY with every single thing about ourselves. The anger, frustration, guilt, and discontent somehow seem like better avenues than gratitude, kindness, and acceptance. Here's me, being annoyed that I can't just have a flat tummy and perfect full round breasts. I wonder what exciting new flaws I would find if I DID happen to have my breasts from pregnancy and my very average size tummy from months of eating romaine lettuce and 3 oz. portions of grilled chicken (served with a generous helping of bitterness and depression). Surely, I would have to move on to some other portion of my body and spend all day, every day calling it names and criticizing it!
So, there's that question. If you DID make every single change you wanted to make to your body (you know exactly what I'm talking about), would you truly be able to look in the mirror and not find fault with ANYTHING? I'm not saying it's impossible, but I meet lots of different sizes and shapes of women, and it's about 1 out of 100 that have a SINGLE positive thing to say about themselves. I understand the defense mechanism mode......"If I just state outright that I'm fat, maybe this person won't point it out for me." I understand the way we've all been brainwashed by the clothing industry. "This is my size, and my number. They are bad and I should feel ashamed, especially if that number goes up." Is any of this negativity and self-flagellation actually doing any good? Do you feel like a prettier woman when you shred your body to pieces with insults? I sure as heck don't.
Take a moment, step out of the shower, look at the body you've been given, and silence every single thing that is negative. I know it's an uphill battle, but just give it a shot. I'll do the same, and maybe we can find satisfaction in...satisfaction.